Hey bestie,
Have you ever found yourself wondering if you’re truly ready for the relationship you dream of? Like, you know you want that deep, God-centered, best-friend-and-lifelong-commitment type of love, but deep down, you sometimes question if you’re worthy of it? Because same.
When I became a single mom at 19, I felt completely unworthy of the kind of relationship I truly desired. I had made mistakes, I was struggling, and honestly, I believed I needed to “fix” myself before I could attract my dream partner. But here’s the truth I’ve learned: It’s not about being perfect—it’s about becoming the best version of yourself, the one God created you to be. Because the woman your dream partner is praying for? She’s already inside you—you just have to step into alignment.
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Now, let’s get into these five steps that will transform you into the woman your dream partner is praying for.
1. Self-Love First 💖
You cannot attract the love you desire if you don’t fully love yourself first. I know, I know—it sounds cliché, but it’s the absolute foundation of everything. When you prioritize self-love, you set the standard for how others should treat you.
- Create your non-negotiable standards list – Write down what you will and will NOT tolerate in a relationship. This isn’t about being picky; it’s about knowing your worth.
- Build confidence with solo dating rituals – Take yourself out to coffee, plan solo spa nights, and romanticize your own life. When you enjoy your own company, you stop settling for people who don’t add value to it.
📖 Girly Bible Verse: “She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.” – Proverbs 31:25
2. Visualize Your Match ✨
Before your dream partner shows up, you need to get clear on who they are. If you don’t know what you’re looking for, how will you recognize them when they come into your life?
- Journal your ideal partner’s qualities – Write down everything about them. Not just looks—how do they make you feel? What are their values?
- Visualize your perfect date scenarios – Imagine the kind of love you want to experience. Picture yourself in happy, loving moments.
- Create your relationship goals vision board – Manifestation is powerful! Make a Pinterest board or an actual collage with photos, words, and quotes that represent your dream relationship.
📖 Girly Bible Verse: “Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” – Psalm 37:4
3. Become The One 👑
Instead of focusing on finding the right person, focus on becoming the right person. Work on YOU, sis!
- Work on emotional intelligence & growth – Learn how to communicate, handle conflict, and regulate your emotions.
- Build your dream life independently – Your happiness should not depend on someone else. Chase your goals, travel, and create a life you love.
- Focus on your glow-up journey inside + out – Take care of your mind, body, and soul. Your energy is what truly attracts the right person.
📖 Girly Bible Verse: “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.” – Proverbs 31:10
4. Put Yourself Out There 🌸
If you want to meet your dream partner, you have to be visible! You can’t stay home every weekend binge-watching Netflix and expect Prince Charming to show up at your door.
- Join activities aligned with your values – Love fitness? Join a gym. Passionate about faith? Get involved in church events.
- Try new hobbies where you’ll meet people – Book clubs, dance classes, hiking groups—put yourself in spaces where like-minded people are.
- Get comfortable being social & authentic – Confidence is magnetic. Speak up, introduce yourself, and own your presence.
5. Date With Purpose 💅
Dating should be fun, but if your goal is a serious, God-centered relationship, you need to be intentional about who you invest time in.
- Set healthy boundaries from day one – Boundaries are not walls; they are filters for protecting your peace.
- Stay aligned with your standards – If someone shows red flags, believe them the first time.
- Keep your main character energy – You are the prize, babe. Never settle for less than what you know you deserve.
- Pray for the right partner – Let God guide your love life. His timing is perfect.
Journal Prompts for Growth 📝
- What are my non-negotiables in a relationship, and why are they important to me?
- What does my dream relationship feel like, and how can I start embodying that energy today?
- In what areas do I need to grow before I can be the best partner for my dream person?
Affirmations for Attracting the Right Love
- I am worthy of love.
- I attract a God-centered, loving, and fulfilling relationship.
- I am preparing my heart and life for the partner God has for me.
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Because love, you deserve the relationship of your dreams. And it starts with you. 💖
