Hey bestie,
Do you ever feel alone while scrolling through social media, seeing powerful girl groups lifting each other up and reaching their fullest potential, and then wondering why you don’t have that kind of support in your life? I’ve been there. When I became a single mom at 19, I felt so isolated and alone—like the only person left at the party—while my friends were out having fun. I was also super introverted and clung to this “superwoman” single mom complex, terrified to ask for help. But as my daughter grew up, I made it my mission to break free from that bubble and build a community of amazing besties. And trust me, building a supportive friend squad is a total game changer!
Before we dive into my top 5 friend goals to build your dream bestie squad, I’ve got a little gift for you. My Pinterest to Dream Life Guide is free and packed with inspiration to help you design a life you absolutely love. If you’re ready to kickstart your journey to achieving your dream goals this year, grab your guide here.
Now, let’s get into the friend goals that have helped me create the supportive bestie squad I cherish today!
1. Friend Goals: Be Vulnerable and Open Up
I used to think that showing any sign of weakness would make me less capable, especially when I felt like I had to do it all on my own. But here’s the secret: vulnerability is the secret sauce for authentic friendships. When I started opening up about my struggles and dreams—even the messy parts—I discovered that my honesty attracted women who really got me.
Not every person you open up to will become a lifelong friend; some may even be toxic. Toxic friend traits can include constant negativity, one-sided conversations, and a knack for making you feel guilty for simply being yourself. Remember: a true friend is someone who lifts you up, not someone who drains your energy.
Journal Prompt:
- Write about a moment when being vulnerable led to a deeper connection. What did you learn about yourself and the other person?
Affirmation:
- I am worthy of deep, genuine connections, and I embrace vulnerability as a strength.
2. Create Your Non-Negotiable Friend Standards
Ever wonder why some friendships just don’t work? It might be because they lack clear boundaries. I began by writing down what I absolutely need in a friend—loyalty, honesty, humor, and the ability to have both deep talks and spontaneous dance parties. This “non-negotiable list” isn’t about being picky; it’s about knowing your worth and setting the standard for how you deserve to be treated.
And let’s be honest, we all have that friend (or two) who always seems to bring drama or drain our energy. Recognizing those toxic traits early on helps you steer clear and focus on friendships that genuinely nourish your soul.
Journal Prompt:
2. List three qualities that you value most in a friend. How do these qualities contribute to your overall happiness?
Affirmation:
- I deserve friendships that are nurturing, empowering, and filled with laughter.
3. Build Confidence Through Solo Adventures
I learned that sometimes the best way to attract the right friends is to become your own best friend first. It might sound a little weird, but taking yourself on solo adventures—like treating yourself to a movie night, enjoying a quiet coffee date alone, or exploring a new hobby—boosted my confidence immensely. When you enjoy your own company, you naturally radiate the energy that attracts similar vibes from others.
Plus, solo adventures give you a chance to reflect, grow, and come out of your shell a bit more. That way, when you do step out to meet new people, you do it with a glow that screams, “I love me, and you should too!”
Journal Prompt:
3. Write about a solo adventure you enjoyed and how it made you feel more empowered. What did you learn about yourself?
Affirmation:
- I am complete and confident on my own, and I attract friendships that celebrate my independence.
4. Put Yourself Out There
Let’s face it—building a supportive bestie squad requires stepping out of your comfort zone. I pushed myself to join activities and communities that aligned with my interests and values. Whether it was signing up for local workshops, joining online groups, or even attending a few meet-ups, every small step helped me expand my social circle.
Don’t worry if it feels awkward at first. Remember, everyone is in the same boat, trying to find meaningful connections. Trust that the right people will appreciate your authenticity and that every “no” brings you closer to a “yes.” And if you ever need a cheerleader, join my Accountability Besties community! It’s a space for women to create a life they absolutely love and achieve their goals together. Trust me, nothing beats a community of empowered besties who lift each other up.
5. Date Your Friendships With Purpose
Yes, you read that right—date your friendships! I started treating my friend relationships with the same intentionality I’d want in a romantic relationship. This means scheduling regular catch-ups, making an effort to check in even on busy days, and being present when you’re together. It’s all about quality over quantity.
Healthy friendships are reciprocal. They thrive on open communication, mutual respect, and the willingness to support each other through thick and thin. By treating friendships like they’re important dates, you create bonds that last a lifetime.
Affirmation:
- I invest in friendships that nurture my spirit, inspire my growth, and fill my life with joy.
Ready to Build Your Dream Bestie Squad?
Building a supportive bestie squad is an ongoing journey that starts with being true to yourself, knowing your worth, and taking proactive steps to find and sustain healthy friendships. It’s not about having a massive friend list; it’s about cultivating meaningful, quality connections that make you feel alive, supported, and loved.
As you work on building your friend circle, keep these journal prompts and affirmations close to your heart. They’re little reminders that every step you take is a step toward the life you truly deserve—a life filled with genuine connections, laughter, and a tribe that’s always got your back.
And remember, creating the life you absolutely love isn’t just about friendships—it’s about setting your overall life on fire with passion and purpose. If you’re ready to take your dream life to the next level, don’t forget to grab my free Pinterest to Dream Life Guide here. This guide has been a total game-changer in helping me turn my dreams into actionable goals.
Also, if you need that extra push to stick to your goals, my Accountability Bestie 12-Week Guided Planner is here for you. This daily check-in journal is designed to keep you motivated and on track so that every week, you’re one step closer to living the life you’ve always dreamed of. Get yours here.
Remember, girl, the journey to building your best friend squad—and a life you adore—starts with one step. Embrace vulnerability, set your standards high, take yourself on fabulous solo dates, and don’t be afraid to put yourself out there. You’ve got the power to create a supportive, loving community that will help you shine every day. Let’s do this together!
Xo,
Chelsea Elise 💖
